On a first date, it’s important to relax and enjoy yourself, while relaying your true personality and interests. However, there are common sense guidelines that will enable you to project a sense of style and initiate a potentially romantic encounter with confidence. Having a successful first date, even if the person isn’t right for you, is easy with the following tips.
Be Punctual
Showing up on time makes a positive first impression. If you make your date wait, even for fifteen minutes, you’ll put a negative spin on the get-together. No one likes to wait, and a latecomer sends the message that they’re either irresponsible or self-centered. Even if it’s a blind date, consider it on par with a job interview for a coveted position you’d love to have. Everyone deserves the consideration of a date appearing on time.
Be a Good Conversationalist
Even if you’ve found yourself on a blind date with someone you’re not attracted to, engage them in conversation for a brief hour or so. Show interest and ask pointed questions while responding with your true thoughts and feelings. Focus on positive topics, such as movies you’d like to see or books you’ve read. Find common ground or explore different opinions, as long as the interaction remains respectful. It’s usually best to avoid getting into hot topics, like religion and politics, especially on a first date. The most important aspect of a good conversation is balance—in which one person is not doing a majority of the talking. If you find yourself in exhaustive listening mode, gently steer the conversation in a new direction if possible.
Dress for Success
Sometimes people make the mistake of dressing down on a first date in order to send a signal that they aren’t desperate or trying too hard. But that’s not a good idea. We all know that first impressions count. Therefore, it’s important to look your best and present a positive image in alignment with your authentic style. Avoid looking too sexy, as you’ll want your date to focus on you and your personality. Wear something flattering and forgo dark, drab colors unless you can spice it up with an energetic color. Google the restaurant or bar where you’re planning to meet and find out the proper attire. Some dating scenarios may require business attire. If attending a singles event in Boston, for instance, you may want to wear a suit and appear professional. In most cases, it’s better to be slightly over-dressed than appearing too casual.
Remember that dating involves getting to know someone and deciding if it makes sense to invest more time in the relationship. Project your own personal style, offer good manners, and if your date doesn’t respond favorably, then understand that it wasn’t meant to be. Dates that don’t ignite are still an opportunity to practice good etiquette. Experience with first dates will give you the skills to create a successful encounter when you do meet someone who’s right for you.